Shaking those Negative Thoughts

I’m pretty good at focusing on my goals and achieving them, but sometimes I’ll get a negative thought in my head, for example, something like “I’m not as good at this as other people” or “they’re not going to like me” and I just can’t shake it. It gets to the point where it starts to affect my abilities in a bad way. I know I’m better than this, but I just don’t know what to do to get rid of these negative thoughts. What do you suggest?

- Melissa

Hi Melissa,

First and foremost, let me tell you that you’re not the only one who suffers from this affliction. This is the bane of anyone who strives to achieve anything, and the challenge is finding a way that works for you to help you move through this.

You may already have tried to get rid of the negative thoughts through will power, and you’ve probably found that it doesn’t work! The more you focus on them, the stronger they get, right?

Remember that your mind is just trying to protect you. Instead of seeing these negative thoughts as enemies, consider looking at them as a protection mechanism. Do you need protection? Of course not, but we need to influence our mind differently, otherwise it will just dig in!

Rather than trying to wrestle with those negative thoughts, try a gentler, more soothing way to talk them down. Say things to yourself like:

  • I’m good at accomplishing things

  • I always find a way to line up with what I want

  • The obstacles I face only add to my determination to succeed

  • The fact that I want this means it must be possible for me to achieve it

  • If other people can accomplish it, then I can too

  • There are people who aren’t even that good at it that have accomplished it!

  • I don’t have to figure this all out right now

  • One step at a time

  • I’ll find my way eventually, I always do

Just some simple statements like this can create more ease and calm in your mind. As you keep practicing this, you’ll find yourself going with the flow more. Soon enough, you’ll start to feel more confident and sure in yourself and those negative thoughts will surface less and less.

Mastery of the mind is not an overnight process, otherwise we would all be experiencing it. It’s a continuous process of correcting your mental course, even after you have achieved your goal.

Give this process a try and notice what happens!

Anjali McQueen