Boost Your Confidence
Boost Your Confidence
Did you know that the biggest obstacle between you and incredible confidence is your own thinking? Everything starts with thought; a business idea, the laptop or computer you’re looking at, these were once just thoughts in someone's mind. Our thoughts are what influence how we feel and what we do. Wouldn't it be nice to consciously choose to be confident rather than living as a victim of circumstance? Here are 10 techniques to help you!
Break Old Patterns
If you're comparing yourself to others, trying to be like someone else, or feeling like you're not good enough, you have a negative thought pattern that needs to stop. Try this: put a rubber band on your wrist. When you notice yourself thinking these thoughts, ping the band! This will interrupt the pattern. Keep doing this until it peters out.
Do you remember as a child having conversations with imaginary friends? Didn't it feel real? You can still apply your imagination now. You have a presentation coming up to hundreds of people and you're scared. Or you're in an interview and intimidated by your potential future boss. Imagine them sat on the toilet. It sounds strange, but just do it and notice how you feel. Still feeling scared?
Change Your State
You can change how you feel within seconds using a powerful technique called anchoring. Imagine a time when you felt confident and powerful. Feel those feelings as deeply as possible. Then, press your thumb and forefinger together while still immersed in the feelings. Now, think of another time and keep repeating the process. Each time you press your thumb and forefinger together you will reactivate this powerful state.
Rehearse Your Goal
Your mind doesn't know the difference between what's real and what’s imaginary. A classic example is watching a scary movie. You know it's not real, yet your mind believes it and your body responds. Imagine yourself experiencing the thing that makes you feel low in confidence. Now imagine feeling intense confidence and courage. This is your own movie, so add in all sensations until it’s so real you can feel it in your entire body. Repeat this daily for at least 5 minutes and see what happens.
If we stopped and listened to the way we speak to ourselves, we would be shocked. "You're so fat." "You're no good." We wouldn't even talk to strangers that way! Your mind is like a search engine, bringing answers to whatever question you ask. "Why am I so fat?" will get you unhelpful answers. Instead of being critical, ask quality questions. "How can I achieve my ideal weight?" A host of helpful answers will come.
Look for Positives
As Albert Einstein beautifully articulated, “We live in a world of relativity.” You wouldn't know darkness if there wasn't light. In the same way, you can't have positives without negatives. Every situation and person has both. If you're having a tough time with someone or feel your confidence and abilities are being challenged, ask yourself: "What is the benefit of this situation?" or "How is this situation or person helping me?" Keep writing until your feelings shift. You'll balance your perceptions and boost your confidence.
Think Big Picture
It's easy to get caught up in our personal dramas. So easy that we forget how insignificant they are in comparison to the size of this infinite universe that contains them! Here's a powerful question that can put everything in perspective: in five years’ time, will this matter?
Imagine the Worst
Have you heard the statement, “Feel the fear and do it anyway”? The things we fear seem like huge demons that will consume us if we dare look at them. But what if they're not? Choose a situation that’s sapping your confidence. Now ask yourself, "If the thing I fear happens, what's the worst that will happen?" Keep asking this question for each answer that comes until the emotional charge subsides.
Tap Away Doubt
Around 1000BC, the Chinese discovered invisible energy pathways in the body that become disrupted by stress. Today, this is known as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), which involves tapping on nine acupoints while repeating a phrase to eliminate a mental or emotional issue. It's a powerful, safe and quick process. If inspired, Google “EFT” and follow the sequence.
This last tip involves talking to yourself, preferably out loud! Affirmations are about replacing old negative statements with new positive ones. But just saying them a few times doesn't work, otherwise you wouldn't need to read this. It’s best to do them just before falling asleep at night when the filter of your conscious mind is weakest. Choose a statement like, "I am confident and capable." As you relax in bed with the lights out, repeat this statement with feeling until you fall asleep.